How to create meaningful connections while apart by Priya Parker

Priya Parker, the author of The Art of Gathering, shares valuable insights on how to create meaningful connections even when we are physically apart. In her TED Talk, titled “How to Create Meaningful Connections While Apart”, Parker emphasizes that during the coronavirus pandemic, we don’t necessarily need to gather more; instead, we need to gather better. Let’s delve into her key points:

Purpose-Driven Gatherings: Parker suggests that we start by asking ourselves what our specific community needs at this particular moment. Whether our gatherings are online or offline, understanding the purpose behind them is crucial. By designing our gatherings around this purpose, we can create more meaningful connections.
Ground Rules and Structure: To make our gatherings memorable and transformative, Parker advises creating ground rules. These rules help set expectations and create a safe space for participants. Additionally, she encourages marking the days—making each gathering unique and significant. Having specific and structured conversations also contributes to the richness of our connections.
Examples Across Different Groups:
- Family: Parker recommends using specific names during virtual gatherings. For instance, instead of saying “everyone,” address each family member individually. This personal touch fosters a stronger sense of connection.
- Friends: Share physical objects during your virtual gatherings. For example, you could all have a cup of tea together, even if you’re miles apart. This simple act creates a shared experience.
- Coworkers: Parker suggests having structured conversations during work-related virtual gatherings. Instead of aimless chitchat, focus on specific topics or challenges. This approach ensures that the time spent together is purposeful.
- Students: For virtual classes, consider using audio activities. Ask students to record their thoughts or reflections and share them with the group. This not only enhances engagement but also deepens connections.
Opportunity for Transformation: Parker believes that this moment of social distancing is an opportunity for interruption—a chance to rethink how we connect. Rather than defaulting to traditional gatherings, we can explore new forms of connection and meaning-making.