Get comfortable with being uncomfortable by Luvvie Ajayi

Ifeoluwa Adenike Damilola Ajayi known professionally as Luvvie Ajayi is a Nigerian author, speaker, and digital strategist. Her first book, I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual was a New York Times best-seller.

In this thought-provoking presentation, Geller explores how we can cultivate self-motivation and empower ourselves. Here are the key takeaways:

Four C’s of Empowerment:
- Competence: Feeling competent and capable is essential for self-motivation. When we believe in our abilities, we’re more likely to take action.
- Consequences: Understanding the consequences of our actions motivates us. Positive outcomes encourage us to continue, while negative consequences prompt us to adjust our behavior.
- Choice: Having autonomy and the ability to make choices empowers us. When we feel in control, we’re more motivated to act.
- Community: Our connections with others play a crucial role. Building a supportive community fosters motivation and encourages us to strive for success.
Shift from Failure Avoidance to Success Seeking:
- Geller emphasizes that we should move away from being “failure avoiders” and instead become “success seekers.” Rather than merely avoiding negative outcomes, we should actively seek positive ones.
- He shares personal anecdotes, including learning to play the drums, to illustrate how these principles apply in everyday life.
Feedback and Education:
- Constructive feedback helps us improve and stay motivated. It guides our efforts and allows us to make necessary adjustments.
- Continuous learning and education contribute to our sense of competence and motivation.
Interdependence:
- Geller highlights the importance of interdependence—our reliance on others. We thrive when we collaborate, support one another, and actively care for people around us.